Thursday, December 20, 2018

Daughter’s Birthday, Kiluea, Quiescent, Bhutan in the News, Remembering CASS, Venezuela, Syria, Weekly Standard, How Many Immigrants? The Wall, Catholic Church, My Books on Amazon This Holiday


Our family has just observed my older daughter Melanie’s birthday, celebrated on the anniversary of my late son Andrew’s passing. The holidays are always bittersweet for us.

Kiluea volcano on Hawaii’s Big Island now finally seems quiescent after exploding for months and destroying many homes. For years, I and countless others have marveled at the regular lava flow plunging down in a cloud of steam into the ocean below, the flow glowing brightly at night and giving off tremendous heat. It was a spectacular sight and experience like no other. But now, it seems, the volcano is resting without any more flowing lava, just harboring a molten lava lake still glowing in the crater below, seen from the rim. But visitors must be careful about not falling in; I don’t know how close they are now allowed to go.

Bhutan is a small country with a total population of about 800,000, slightly more than Washington, DC. Somehow, I’ve gotten on Bhutan’s radar and have come to know a number of Bhutanese here in DC. But international news involving Bhutan is exceedingly rare and most Americans have never heard of that country. I am alert to any news of Bhutan, such as this:

Also, here is an article on Bhutan travel, but apart from just getting there, the daily fees mandated by the king are costly (only visitors from India are exempt, I’ve been told). Also, the weather, at least in the capital city Thimphu, is always rainy and cool or even downright cold every time I check. That probably allows tress there to grow tall, with lumber seeming to be the main industry besides tourism.

A notice from local government reached me out of the past from my tenure as board president for a local agency called Children’s Adoption Support Services (CASS). It was reminding me to renew our tax-exempt status. How much water has flowed under the bridge since we started that agency! My long-time friend Hope, a single parent pioneer who adopted three children, including one from Vietnam, was the spark behind our effort. (I once wrote about her and her children for the Washington Post.) Alas, our agency is long gone, friend Hope is no longer with us, and adoption has undergone many changes since. So, I won’t be renewing our status, but just now receiving that letter reminded me of both our victories and challenges in getting our agency underway.

On Saturday, Dec. 15, daughter Melanie and I were driving back to DC from Va. when several bridges crossing the Potomac were all blocked. Police could not tell us why. Then, the next morning, we read in the Washington Post that “Trump makes unannounced visit to Arlington National Cemetery.”

According to news reports, gun-related deaths in the US now surpass vehicle deaths.

Very sad what has happened to Venezuela, not so long ago probably the most prosperous country in Latin America thanks to its vast oil wealth. Venezuela started going downhill when Hugo Chavez assumed the presidency and began dispensing oil largess to allies, including Cuba. Under Nicolas Maduro, the nation has continued its precipitous decline. I’ve helped Venezuelan asylum seekers here, folks who once enjoyed a normal middle-class life and since were blindsided by Maduro’s incompetence, corruption, and power grab. Venezuelans (and Cubans who can get out) are fleeing to other South American countries. Those Venezuelans lucky enough to have US visas (sometimes 10-year visas issued before the worst of the crisis) are now coming here. There is an object lesson for us here in the US about not letting a populous power-hungry president destroy our democracy and our economic wellbeing. https://www.theguardian.com/cities/2018/dec/18/the-fallen-metropolis-the-collapse-of-caracas-the-jewel-of-latin-america

Should the US now pull out completely out of Syria? The time doesn’t seem right. But since Trump’s surprise announcement did not mention a date, maybe there is some wiggle room there?


The Weekly Standard’s unfortunate demise strikes fear into the hearts of Republicans who dare to counter Trump. However, the tide will turn rather suddenly, I predict, and will become an anti-Trump tidal wave, even among Republicans. They will fall all over themselves to try to distance themselves, “I really never supported him.” Fortunately, Trump is not actually such an adept “dealmaker,” just a braggart, so has done less real damage than he might have intended. Most Americans will feel enormous relief when he is out of office, but some of us will also grieve for our losses. Pundits and historians will endlessly examine all that went wrong. 

158 million would-be migrants want to move to the US, the world’s top pick, including among Hondurans.
It’s not surprising that folks want to come here, Trump's policies notwithstanding. Films and TV have made the USA a desirable “dream” destination. People elsewhere with the actual means to do so (money and visas) seem less inclined to come here now with Trump in office, but poor people still imagine a land of milk and honey. Upper-class and even middle-class people abroad often appreciate being able to hire servants to care for their kids, do their housework, and guard their homes, something they could not afford in the US, so are not as inclined to move here. Of course, if everyone who wanted to come actually could, it would create an unacceptable avalanche. Still, the US could absorb and actually needs more than are coming here right now, especially among working age adults able to fill jobs and reduce our population's overall decline and aging. At the very least, those undocumented folks already here and working productively, as well as the Dreamers, should be legalized. There would be no loss in doing so. Even Trump's properties employ "illegals."   

As for how to keep so many new “illegals” from coming into the US, one way would be to increase legal immigrant visas, including with the visa lottery, won by some folks who once lived at my place, also to welcome many more refugees. We need to keep the US working-age population from declining, as has been happening in Japan and some European countries. We are not producing enough babies!

A wall is not a good optic anyway—Trump cites the example of Israel’s wall, which has not been good for that country’s reputation. Perhaps because he feels besieged by the Mueller investigation, Trump has been asserting his manhood in a tangible way by demanding a physical wall, threatening a government shutdown over a border wall promised to his ever-shrinking base of supporters. Hey, isn’t Mexico supposed to pay for the wall anyway? So, let’s say that Trump makes the government shut down happen; then what? I doubt Republicans would want that, especially as Trump is taking full ownership. (Now, at the last moment, the budget has apparently been extended into the new year, though Trump has yet to sign.)

Donald Trump, who has so often boasted about his enormous wealth, could actually offer to fund the @#$%^&* wall himself, put his own vast money where his mouth is. But a wall between Mexico and the US is not a good optic or environmentally sound; better is a see-through fence only where necessary. Speedier processing of asylum applicants and getting separated kids back with their parents should be added to any border security effort. Children should not die in custody, as has sometimes happened. But parents also bear responsibility for embarking with them on such a perilous journey.

Yet, those who seek asylum because of threats of gang violence or domestic abuse are not making unsubstantiated claims. A young Honduran man was murdered days after being deported.    https://www.yahoo.com/news/honduran-teens-joined-migrant-caravan-killed-mexico-155726711.html

Here is another challenge to Trump & Co. Judge orders deported asylum seekers to be returned to US, in a Trump administration rebuke
https://www.foxnews.com/politics/judge-orders-deported-asylum-seekers-to-be-returned-to-us-in-trump-administration-rebuke

Instead of pledging money for a wall, the US has reportedly partnered quietly with Mexico, pledging $10 billion in aid for southern Mexico and Central America. Trump has not tweeted about this, as far as I know. It’s not clear whether this is actual money, just a loan, or a matter of moving funds around. https://apnews.com/0fcda32812024680ad98676379c47233

Mexico is also reportedly considering a $30 billion Central American investment to stop the migrant crisis. Again, after this announcement, details of an actual investment are murky. It may be loans, private donations, and/or funds already allocated for other purposes, possibly not new money.
https://thehill.com/opinion/immigration/421930-mexico-considering-30-billion-central-american-investment-to-stop-migrant

The Trump administration does deserve some credit for agreeing to ban bump stocks, a no-brainer, also for agreeing to reduce some federal sentences.

The Fed ever so slightly raised interest rates despite a warning from Trump. The stock market, which has been plunging, is recovering somewhat.

Maybe The Donald has finally begun realizing that he’s in trouble, as he reportedly failed to leave his bedroom on Dec. 14 when news came crashing down all around him.

There has been speculation (wishful thinking?) that Trump might actually resign, claiming victory for the most successful presidency ever known in American history. He doesn’t seem to be getting a lot of job satisfaction right now. However, resignation might bring the day of reckoning for him even closer, although the political class might just let him retire in collective relief. Surely Pence would pardon him and he would still enjoy Secret Service protection. He could continue to play golf and give rally speeches to his ardent followers to boost his ego—maybe even charge admission. It’s doubtful after his real estate machinations have been so thoroughly exposed that he could get back into that business.

Would a truly capable and smart leader, secure about his own abilities, actually boast that he’s the greatest ever? Muhammed Ali’s boasting was partly tongue-in- cheek, but Trump has avoided any hint of irony in his own braggadocio. And does the United States really need to tout its economic might and military superiority? Doing so raises doubts, especially under Trump when we are actually going downhill. (But the man does know now to draw attention to himself. I’ll grant him that.)

With all the focus in the Republican Party—and for that matter among members of the public--on jobs, jobs, jobs, I’m reminded of the maxim of the occupational therapy association where I worked for 16 years, namely that everyone seeks “purposeful activity” however defined subjectively by each person. Work and being paid for that work are major ways of valuing one’s own “purposeful activity,” though an artist like Van Gogh might paint on his own schedule and without any remuneration. Actually, primates and other mammals also seem to engage in purposeful activity and often seem listless and bored without it. Hence, gerbils have climbing wheels, dogs chase sticks, and zoo gorillas’ search out hidden food.

At this point, the revelation of the vast extent of clergy sex abuse, especially of minors, in the Catholic church and the cover-up, not only in the US, but around the world, has prompted me to take a long time-out from the church. I feel for sympathy for Pope Francis confronting this serious long-festering problem. I remember my own youthful interest in becoming a nun and even, not so long ago, attending a mass officiated by Cardinal McCarrick. But now, late in life, the pope and the church would have to take dramatic action to win me back again.

Dear readers, why not consider giving your loved ones an adventure-filled, inspiring book for the holidays, one outside the ordinary mainstream, namely, one of my own titles, available on Amazon? (You can tell the recipient you know the author.) The main message of both books (Triumph & Hope and Confessions of Secret Latina), memoirs from my own life, is that we all have unique and amazing experiences, not only you and me, but even the panhandler on the corner if only he could put words to paper. My immediate neighbors greet me regularly outside my front door, seeing only a slender smiling woman of a certain age and, as I return their greetings, I see only their own superficial appearance. But we all have secret depths and unique feelings and vast experiences. Read about my many adventures and challenges, then acknowledge and celebrate your own.  


Monday, December 10, 2018

Son’s Death Anniversary, 70th Human Rights Declaration Anniversary, RIP George HW Bush, Migrants, Assange, Suicide in America, Plunging Birthrates

My 3-year-old grandson Kingston in Hawaii, in a photo taken by his father, my son Jon, visiting there recently from his current home in W Va. 

           Dec. 19 is the anniversary of my beloved son Andrew's untimely death.



December 10 is not only Human Rights Day, but also the 70th anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. We’d like to think some progress has been made during those 70 years.

Donald Trump, who has constantly disparaged the Bush family and George HW Bush’s NAFTA initiative, suddenly decided to go all-out for the former president’s funeral. Trump is nothing if not unpredictable. Of course, the Bush family, in an attempt at reconciliation, invited Trump to the funeral, an olive branch that he seems to have relished after being snubbed by McCain’s family. (How will he react if former President Carter dies on his watch?) No doubt Trump was squirming in his seat during the long ceremony which was not about him for a change and seemed a rebuttal to his approach to governing.

Though I did not vote for GHW, I consider him to have been an OK president, better than his son. He was certainly moderate and reasonable in contrast to Trump. He showed restraint after the invasion of Kuwait (but failed to support the Iraqis after urging them to “rise up”). He presided over the enactment of the Americans with Disabilities Act, which I had worked on beforehand behind the scenes, assisting my late former husband. Bush Senior also signed the Clean Air Act now being thwarted by Trump. He advocated statehood for Puerto Rico. His “Thousand Points of Light.“ much disparaged by Trump, were considered inspiring. And the elder Bush welcomed the fall of the Berlin Wall, but also oversaw the Tiananmen Square massacre.

But for all the accolades heaped on a fallen leader, his legacy is not unblemished. Bush presided over the Anita Hill hearings and nominated Clarence Thomas and also was lukewarm about confronting AIDS, which afflicted my late Cuban foster son Alex, leading to his death. The Willie Horton accusations that he repeatedly leveled during his presidential campaign were pretty egregious. Father Bush was also famous for his garbled syntax, echoed later by his son in his own presidency. (But compared to Trump, GHW in his presidency was the soul of eloquence.) In his later (senile?) years, while posing for photo ops in his wheelchair, the late former president would reportedly routinely pinch the bottoms of unsuspecting young women standing next to him and chortle “David-cop-a feel,” to wife Barbara’s great consternation. So, like most human beings, he leaves a mixed legacy.

The Me-Too movement is an ongoing cultural and power distribution shift leaving many men befuddled and defensive and propelling many of them to join with misogynist Donald Trump. While women of my generation in our youth simply accepted male dominance and sexual aggression as reality, thanks to birth control and rising expectations, women are now seeking more options. Just as there was (and still is) resistance to black empowerment and equality, there is going to be continuing resistance to female empowerment. At least some of the vilification of Hillary Clinton has been based on that. Today’s Republican-dominated Senate is one of the last bastions of male dominance.

Here’s another take on the Central American migrant caravan.

The migrant situation is complicated, like most issues when examined in depth. I am not a big fan of contrarian legislator Mel Zelaya, who may have set this caravan in motion. Neither am I a fan of the current president of Honduras, Juan Orlando Hernรกndez, who managed to change the constitution to give himself a second term, as Zelaya had attempted to do, but was thwarted. A pox on both their houses! 

Here’s another story about the Honduran president’s brother being indicted on drug charges in the US,].

Of course, there were 16 siblings in the Honduran president’s family, so their parents might not have been able to keep track of them all and chances are that some bad apples might have turned up among them. Many Hondurans believe the president is another bad apple, but the family does seem to have been an enterprising bunch. When I was in Honduras in Feb., people who had voted for the president considered him the lesser of evils, as the other major candidate was a TV entertainer who had bragged about his sexual prowess and was supported by Zelaya, the legislator and former president mentioned in these pages before, an ally of the late Hugo Chavez. Many people simply told me they had not voted when faced with those choices. I will say that President Hernandez talking on TV sounded much more organized and coherent than Trump, including when he took questions from reporters. That's not saying much. 

Many, if not most, people in Central America dream of going to the US. It's a shared fantasy of a better life, although since Trump took office, some have changed their mind—his rhetoric has had a chilling effect and border crossing are actually down. Still, poverty and violence there are real, but unless you are starving, you can adjust to poverty--it becomes normal. It's a situation shared with all your associates, so simply what you come to expect, as I found out when I lived there as a Peace Corps volunteer for 3 1/2 years. When I came home to the US to a bathroom with a hot shower and flush toilet, that seemed exotic. But violence that threatens you directly is another matter. I do worry about my own safety whenever I go to Honduras, especially in a taxi or on a bus when a hold-up is always possible. And it really isn't feasible for a poor Honduran to just pick up and move to a safer part of the country since there are not many safe places, except maybe in remote villages where it's practically impossible to fit in and earn even a subsistence living. For many Central American young people, the journey north is an adventure and a rite of passage.

The northward journey is dangerous and difficult and the risks don’t end when they arrive in the US, but when they are first starting out, they don’t know that. Of course, this guy did, because he had done it before. https://apnews.com/aaac850c517441b4a1936cb59cdc7040

If Mexico is willing to accept most of the migrants who already speak their national language and are willing to work in border sweatshops for $2 or less per hour, that might still be preferable for them than trying to get into the US. But Mexico's capacity is also limited and there is plenty of violence there too. It would be an irony if migrants now become attracted by “the Mexican dream." 

Why is Sen. Chuck Schumer seeming to agree to fund Trump’s border wall? Is it to try to agree with Trump on something or to avoid a government shutdown? Is it because he knows the rest of the Democratic contingent won’t allow it? It would be a big waste of money, be environmentally damaging, and present a negative image of our country. Shore up fences, if you will, but no wall! Now Schumer is saying it’s money actually for “border security,” not necessarily for a wall.

My younger daughter and her husband live and work in Honolulu and I have a little grandson living there, and am also concerned for all of Hawaii’s residents. So, I believe we need to get Trump out of the presidency as soon as possible, before North Korea builds up its nuclear arsenal to the point that it can reach not only Seoul and Tokyo, but Honolulu. Trump represents a grave danger to humankind.

Julian Assange may have avoided prison by holing up in the Ecuadoran Embassy, its own sort of prison. Now that it is becoming clear that WikiLeaks was instrumental in getting Trump elected, will Assange become eligible for a presidential pardon? If so, there may not be much time left, as the noose seems to be tightening around Donald Trump. (Or is that just my wishful thinking?) Trump seems to be getting increasingly ansy as he tries to feign being in charge. Will his supporters both in government and in the public jettison him if the evidence against him appears too strong? If it comes to that, probably Mike Pence will pardon him, following the Nixon playbook. Then Donald Trump can retire mercifully to the golf course and try again to make real estate deals, though with much diminished capacity with his fraudulence revealed. He may even find a ghostwriter for another memoir giving his side of the story, how the fake media and deep state did him in, which will still sell among his hard core.

Looking back on my Peace Corps years, after the tragic deaths of my son and Cuban foster son and so many years of juggling the needs of my family as a single parent with work obligations and volunteer duties, being in rural Honduras served as a retreat and a respite. Some folks may seek peace in an ashram or a monastery, but I was able to get away from it all by just leading a simple life in a Honduran village. No wonder that I was willing to extend my Peace Corps service for more than a year while many other volunteers went home early or left immediately after completing their 27-month term.

According to the Economist cover story for Nov. 24-30, 2018, global suicide rates are falling, rising only in the US, where half of suicides are carried out with guns. Since suicide is often an impulsive act, easy gun availability makes it lethal.

In the same issue, US birthrates are falling below replacement, approaching low European and Japanese levels. The availability of effective contraception is certainly a factor, as is the greater participation of women in the workforce. Birthrates for Hispanic women are the only sector approaching replacement, but even those have begun falling. All the more reason why our country, as well as Europe and Japan, should welcome more immigrants. 

Saturday, December 1, 2018

Thanksgiving Here & Abroad, World AIDS Day, Pending Anniversary of Son Andrew’s Death, Daughter Melanie’s Birthday, Camp Fire, Trump Again & Again (alas still with us!), Canadian Diplomats Targeted by Sonic Attacks in Cuba, Refugees & Migrants

Here is my friend Priscila with her 2 sons on Thanksgiving morning at McDonald’s, of all places, the only local breakfast venue we could find that was open.



I had a wonderful dinner that evening with my daughter Melanie, my only child living here in DC.

Here’s something about Honduras regarding the migrant caravan. Who really are the “very bad hombres” whom Trump has referred to in relation to the migrants? I’ve been asking folks in Honduras about this allegation.  "Caravan Refugees Fled Honduras —Where the President's Brother is an Alleged Cartel Kingpin" https://thebea.st/2ztINaX?via=ios

Central American migrants being sprayed with tear gas reminded me of my own experience. While tear gas may be less harmful than bullets, it is hardly benign. I was caught with a crowd demonstrating against Pinochet while an election observer in Chile in 1988. We all experienced eye irritation and searing of our throats and lungs, all of us gasping and choking as we fled.

On Thanksgiving, the Donald, quite typically, gave thanks for himself for being such an outstanding president. Was he joking or just acting out a parody of himself? GW Bush, under the spell of Cheney and other wayward advisers, did some very dumb and harmful things, but also did, or at least tried to do, a few good things, like immigration reform (unsuccessfully). But it’s hard to say anything good at all about Trump so far, two years in. Of course, “good” and “bad” are subjective categories about which there will always be disagreement. However, in a democracy, the definition of such terms should rest with the majority, while under Trump, only a minority really consider him a “good” president and a majority consider him decidedly “bad”. He’s had enough time and opportunity to show his good side, if he has one. We like to think that humankind is making progress, but under Trump, the world has been backsliding. Even US life expectancy has fallen slightly. So now the task is to get rid of Trump and start to undo the damage.

Today is World AIDS Day, which I used to celebrate in Honduras with the aid of young people marching along with an AIDS banner that we had made and putting on outdoor skits about avoiding sex or using condoms or getting tested if they were pregnant (a teenage girl with a pillow under her shirt).

Yet, I agree with House Democrats who want to go slow in opposing and investigating Trump to avoid arousing his supporters, both in Congress and among the public, and to tamp down the already fierce partisan divide. They should offer an olive branch and try to find areas of agreement with Trump, even as he remains in fighting mode. How about building a very short section of “The Wall” just to give him something to brag about and stand next to for photo-ops?  Trump is vulnerable to manipulation by actors both foreign and domestic, even within his inner circle, especially if they seem to praise him.

Thanksgiving just past has put me in mind of Thanksgiving holidays that I have celebrated in other countries, including in Colombia as a teenager, in Romania on a mission on behalf of institutionalized children, and later as Peace Corps volunteer in Honduras.  Of course, Thanksgiving is not a holiday elsewhere, except in Canada at an earlier date, nor are turkeys normally eaten elsewhere, being an American bird. So it’s always a special task to find a Thanksgiving turkey in other countries and, in my experience, they are usually tough and boney and forget about cranberry sauce. Still, there is a special camaraderie in celebrating the holiday with just a few kindred souls and in making the effort to try to duplicate the holiday back home.

December is a bittersweet month for our family. My older son, Andrew, died at age 27 on December 19 in 1994, a date that is also my daughter Melanie’s birthday. This year, she turns 50, which I simply have trouble believing. Has it really been 50 years since I first held that little dark-haired baby in arms? Lots of water under the bridge since then.

After the terrible Camp Fire in northern California, I suspect a few folks who had wanted to skip out on their families and start a new life will now do so, since it has been predicted that not all bodies of the disappeared will be found.

Donald Trump, misspeaking as usual, referred to the fire-ravaged town of Paradise as “Pleasure.” Nor has he commented much on his daughter Ivanka’s use of private e-mail for government business, something that he considered a mortal sin when done by Hillary, requiring “lock her up.” It’s not like Ivanka didn’t know that was a no-no. The Trump offspring have been pretty quiet lately, laying low. And Donald has basically exonerated the Saudi Crown Prince in the Khashoggi murder. Of course, GW Bush also ignored the Saudi role in 9/11.

Singer Rufus Wainright is right-on, warning that “the fox is in the henhouse.” Trump’s ascendancy to the presidency, after acquiring the support of only a minority of Americans, gives the majority the experience of living under a dictatorship where everything is decreed by the dictator and enforced by the minority who support him. Trump has certainly acted like a dictator, firing people willy-nilly, aligning himself with foreign dictators, and trying to silence the media. While the minority who voted for Trump might have felt disregarded before and empowered now, is it better that they overrule the majority? In a dictatorship, a minority always supports the ruler as he cannot act alone and must rely on his faithful to carry out orders. When Trump’s appointees fail to carry out his mandates, he fires them. Will we remember Trump when he is out of office, as is bound to happen, hopefully sooner rather than later? Then the analysis of what went wrong will go on ad infinitum. But at the moment, the Tea Party is still going strong, at least on line, drumming up conspiracy theories.

This article in the NYTimes warns that projections of the US becoming a “minority-majority” country, that is, with native-born whites in the minority, has become a rallying cry for Trump and other white racists. So might it be best to play down those predictions? The article points out that the definition of “whiteness” is pretty fluid and that people with some minority inheritance may actually become absorbed into the “white category, since race is a social construct, not something objective and immutable. Definitions change, Is the offspring of a parent with northern European heritage and another parent of another ethnicity “white”? If that offspring married someone of European heritage, then what? Are Jewish people “white”? What about a blond, blue-eyed Hispanic?  There have been two cases recently of black men shot and killed while trying to defend against a shooter. The NRA’s “a good guy with a gun” refers only to white guys?  
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/22/us/white-americans-minority-population.html?action=click&module=Well&pgtype=Homepage&section=US
                  

The pattern for Trump appointees seems to get fired (like on The Apprentice) or being pressed to resign, then to write a book.

US diplomats in Havana are not the only ones injured by mysterious sonic attacks that also targeted Canadian diplomats. https://www.theglobeandmail.com/world/article-canadas-brain-injured-cuba-diplomats-speak-out-about-ottawas-silence/

It’s great that Honduran migrants are being offered jobs in Tijuana, where they not only don’t have to worry about being deported, but also speak the same language as everyone else. Some locals have protested their arrival, but they seem to be a minority.

While my sympathies are with refugees and migrants to the US, who enrich our culture, help fill our worker shortage, and offset the aging of the population, nonetheless, there are limits as to how many new people can be absorbed, something Canada, Australia, and Europe are also grappling with. But we can admit higher numbers than are now being permitted.